quirk [GA], communication desparation

I Wish Communication Werent So Complicated

Im Capable Of Building A Fairly Accurate Picture Of Where Hashing Out Problems Turns Into Unproductive Argumentation But Its Hard To Feel Like That Means Shit All If Im Unable To Deescelate The Situation When It Happens

To Be Fair I Think Most Of This Is Amplified By Physical Space Conversations Being Fundamentally Harder To Mentally Process And Making Anyone More Prone To Outburst And Ignorance Of What The Other Persons Saying

But Its Still A Pain And I Wish I Could Help Better

quirk [GA], re: communication desparation

On The Other Hand Everything Diffuses In Our House After Ten Minutes Anyway So Maybe Im Just Overstating The Use Of A Skill Nobodys All That Good At

But Theres Got To Be Some Way To Encourage Discussion To Flow In More Graceful Manner Than Escalating And Pushing Everyone Away From Each Other (Until They Forget About The Argument And Why They Were Upset Altogether)

Yes Taking A Break Is A Simple And Natural Way To Pause A Conversation And Regather Thoughts While Dissipating Tension So That One May Come Back With A Refreshed Mind But Thats Not The Purpose Of Breaking Up Arguments In This House As Far As I Can Tell

People Just Get Frustrated And Out Of Exasperation Decide On Some Conclusion Which May Or May Not Account For Everyones Thoughts

And Then Everyone Takes Space And I Guess Things Are Resolved Enough But It Still Feels Like Theyre All Better At Pretending That A Hurtful And Ignorant Overall Failed Discussion Didnt Just Happen Than I Am

quirk [GA], re: communication desparation

But I Guess For Most People A Conclusion Is A Conclusion And Thats All The Resolution They Need

That Theyre Ignorant Of How Other People Talk Or Feel And That They Dont Bother To Approach Underlying Problems Just Doesnt Really Matter Once Theyve Decided On A Conclusion

And Yet Those Underlying Problems Are Exactly What Brings Tension To The Forefront And Makes Ordinary Discussion Turn Into Conflict

I Know Im Rambling About This On A Really Meta Level But I Just Dont Know How To Approach Or Convey This In Any Manner That Will Help People Work Out Their Problems

As Far As I Can Tell Whats To Blame Is A Fundamental Part Of The Way They Communicate

But I Cant Bring It Up Directly Because People Get Defensive The Same Way They Do In Any Other Discussion

And I Dont Know How To Bring It Up Indirectly Or In Any Manner That Will Actually Convince People To See The Flaws In Their Listening To Other People And Accept It And Try To Change It

quirk [GA], re: communication desparation

Its A Lot Easier To Just Call It Not A Problem Because The Tension Diffuses After Twenty Minutes Anyway

Deeper Problems Dont Need Attention If Theyre Easier To Ignore I Guess